Work and Parents——-Where to find time? 3


It has been long now that I did not post anything on my blog. I had been very busy for last some days. I had a small break and went home in the the mid of May to visit Bhubaneswar. I stayed there for 1 week. Everybody at home said I have lost considerable weight and am not taking care of my health. Anyways, that is always there for a mother. After I returned, I became busy in my projects as deadlines were nearing. At last, the demos ended on Monday, atleast for the time being.

So, I thought I should now share something with all of you people. This is a very sweet small story which I got from one of my friends, which touched my heart a lot. I shared it with my Director of the institute and so do with some of my close friends and I was really happy that I got back atleast 5 replies saying the story was really touching including our Director, out out of some 20 odd mails sent. This shows still this world has people who feels the emotions and beleives in values, culture and tradition of our country and care for their parents.

The story goes like this:

“After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said I love you but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you. The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally. That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. “What’s wrong, are you well,” she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. “I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,” I responded. “Just the two of us.” She thought ! about it f or a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much.” That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s. “I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, “she said, as she got into the car. “They can’t wait to hear about our meeting”. We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries , I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. “It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said.”Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,” I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary, but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed. “How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home.”Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered. A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have a chance to do anything for her.Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.” At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU!” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than God and your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till “some other time.”

I hope the story is very-very touching and emotional. I request everybody who visits my blog and reads this article to pass this along to everyone with an aging parent, to a child, to an adult, to anyone with a parent.

I do hope always that today is better than yesterday and tomorrow is even better! but never ever forget what your parents are to you and what you mean to them.

Here I give another similar story but yet very stron on feelings and emotions:

“An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 years old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow perched on their window.

The Father asked his Son, “What is this? “
The Son replied “It is a crow”.

After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time,”What is this?”
The Son said “Father, I have just now told you “It’s a crow”.

After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time, “What is this?”
At this time some ex-pression of irritation was felt in the Son’s tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff. “It’s a crow, a crow”.

A little after, the Father again asked his Son the 4th time, “What is this?”
This time the Son shouted at his Father, “Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times ‘IT IS A CROW’. Are you not able to understand this?”

A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his Son was born. On Opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page.

When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary :-“Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was, And I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow.

I hugged him lovingly each time he asked me the same question again and again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated. I rather felt affection for my innocent child”. While the little child asked him 23 times “What isthis”, the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the samequestion all 23 times and when today the Father asked his Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.”

The message is:

So..If your parents attain old age, do not repulse them or look at them as a burden, but speak to them a gracious word, be cool, obedient, humbleand kind to them. Be considerate to your parents. From today say this aloud, “I want to see my parents happy forever. They have cared for me ever since I was a little child. They have always showered their selfless love on me. They crossed all mountains and valleys without seeing the storm and heat, To make me a person presentable in the society today”.

Say a prayer to God, “Oh God! Have pity on my Parents & they took pity on me when I was young””I will serve my old parents in the BEST way. I will say all good and kind words to my dear parents, no matter how they behave.”

So I hope nobody considers these as two mere stories, rather practice this, there’s no harm, right !!!


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3 thoughts on “Work and Parents——-Where to find time?

  • mukul

    Here is a perfect example of an emotional guy. Emotional in many contexts … and yeah emotions drive life. Thanks for compiling the stories.

  • Cinderella

    Goodness jesus…finally a new post from Mr.Deepak n hell it was nice.The stories were indeed very touching.I liked the first one more.
    Take care dude.

  • Deepak Panigrahy

    @mukul—-thanks for such an honour.but let me tell u, battles can be won with emotions and of course, action of mind with commen sense.

    @cindrella—-God would have thanked me for atleast making one person to think of HIM from busy schedules.
    u liked the stories,especially the first one; thats nice of you. But the real goal will be achieved when we start practising them in our real life….right?